Something that occurred a while ago has been on my mind since, and I have been trying to ignore it because I simply didn’t feel like typing up a lengthy post about it. However, that experience really helps to explain why what I am planning is so important, in my opinion.
Weeks ago I was interviewing a potential, which is a process that takes hours and so I try to break it up into two or three days usually, and I liked him but I felt like something was missing. I knew he was older and that he was new to the lifestyle and that made me very wary. We had passed the direct Q&A session and had entered the guided discussion phase when suddenly he said something that proved he was not right for me. What did he say? That he could never serve a man or even an “alpha slave” and he was quite serious about it.
Now this person considered himself limitless and all of the “usual limits” (you know the ones) were fine with him, which I always appreciate. I asked him if the “never serving men” thing was a limit and… ‘lo and behold it was! I told him, very truthfully, that I found that totally unacceptable on the principle that I am only interested in limitless subs and we said our goodbyes. Had it ended there I would have been fine, because, while I did really like him, I am totally intolerant of LIFETIME subs with limits. Limits are for part-timers and boys who pay as their consolation prize, in my opinion, of missing the deepest connection possible - that of a life-timer. Unfortunately, it didn’t end there.
You see, this particular sub couldn’t help himself. I am sure he was angry at the abruptness of my decision and at the fact that something that seemed to him to be relatively minor could be such a big deal. So he sent me an email which basically said “The next time I choose a Mistress I will make sure she is a real Female Supremacist and would never let a man have any say at all,” which was one of the stupidest things he could have said. Do you know why?
To suggest that a Female is not a “true” Female Supremacist because she won’t allow a man his limit(s) is missing the complete point. A Woman is allowed anything she wants, as I see it, including having an alpha sub/slave. Here is the kicker: I have never had, nor do I want an alpha slave of any sort. It is simply the principle: I would have made him follow a male sub/slave simply to rid him of the limit, bring him closer to his true self, and allow him to learn a valuable lesson: he doesn’t make any rules.
I did tell him that I would have made him follow another as I said above and explained it as I did above when I told him he was excused. That irritated his manhood, as he felt he was too good, I’m sure, to serve another man: an obvious (and flawed) limit. I don’t think I would have had the same issue with an experienced sub/slave but I have a soft spot for older subs and I tend to give them my attention more than ones in my own age range (and I know, I should stop discriminating).
That scenario really helped me see that there are too many theories of Female Supremacy, Black Supremacy, and Black Female Supremacy. It helped make me sure that I need to be on a soapbox shouting my own views. And here I am.
The situation reiterated the importance of thorough interviews and screenings because I can only imagine what would happen if he is taken and then his Mistress finds out about his limit!
Finally, that experience made me think of limits in general; why subs have them, what they are based on, and why they are important to be offered to a Domme as a show of devotion, in order to rid the submissive of them in Her honor. What are yours?
* Proper grammar be damned; it's a song.
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