This is a pop song, and it is much more recent, from about 2008. The singer is also a songwriter and has written a lot of songs for today’s female pop singers, which are considered “women’s anthems.” I find this interesting because a lot of these songs are progressive and tout female supremacy and are written by a man. This song is one of those he wrote and chose to keep for himself, which is telling. Take away the pop music and flair and I find the lyrics to be almost exactly what a male submissive would say. How enticing. I ask that you read the lyrics and then listen to the song, which is here.
*Because of all of the repetition, found in almost all of today’s pop music, I have amended the lyric here (and because one of the lyrics is misquoted).*
Verse 1:
Turn the lights up in this place
And she shines just like a star
And I swear I know her face
I just don’t know who you are
Turn the music up in here
I still hear her loud and clear
Like she’s right there in my ear
Telling me
She wants to own me
To control me
Come closer
Come closer
Chorus:
And I just can’t pull myself away
From the respect I can make
I just cant stop
I just cant stop
I just cant stop
I just cant stop
And I just can’t bring myself away
But I don’t want to escape
I just can’t stop
I just can’t stop
I just can’t stop
I just can’t stop
I just can’t stop
Verse 2:
I can feel her on my skin
I can taste her on my tongue
Shes the sweetest taste Ive seen
(This is wrong, the lyric is actually “She’s the sweetest taste of sin”)
The more I get the more I want
She wants to own me
Come closer
She says "come closer"
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Thursday, May 20, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Let’s talk about sex.
What does sex mean to you? Is it based on sex organs or the anus, fingers, tongues, or something else entirely? Is it tied to a fetish so tight that you can’t separate the two? What do you masturbate to, if you masturbate at all? And if you don’t, why don’t you?
One of the great things about the “lifestyle” is seeing how people define sex and what turns them on. Some people get turned on by those very kinky “fringe” things that lead them to live in the closet, for fear their kinks will make people think less of them. Some people find the D/s lifestyle to be their kink, and that is enough for them. And others are probably something close to asexual.
I could go on and on, but hopefully the point was made that “sex” is relative. Personally, I think sex is whatever gets you off, for the most part. Like most Dommes, I have a host of sex toys and my strap-on is my favorite (outside of my strongest vibrator). But, I also like “plain” sex. Are you gasping yet? This has become almost taboo somehow, which I find hilarious. Somehow, it seems that a Domme who actually likes to use her vagina is becoming a rarity.
I thought the person was playing the first time I heard the gasp at that. But I’ve kind of gotten used to it. I might as well add to it that I only have sex with men who are submissive to me. I can’t imagine having sex with a dom man as there is no attraction. Now, this has gotten some outrage, especially among Dommes who believe all slaves should be sexless. I agree with the sentiment only if it is what a Domme wants from/for her slave.
I don’t allow for much sex from slaves either, and generally put a strap-on on a slave if I am to use them as sex toys, but there is something to be said – to me – for a real penis in my vagina (or ass, I suppose). I generally accomplish this by having a submissive man who is not my owned property act as my “live” dildo and it works just fine, but there are the times when I am worked up and the person closest is a slave and I want the “complete package.”
That can lead to trouble.
All of the hard work that goes into keeping a slave nicely chaste with large, swollen balls can come to bite you once you want them to gain an erection. A lot of anal use and/or prostate milking can also seem to hinder erections while helping ejaculations, also. And while a formerly over-sexed male slave turning into a chaste little tongue machine (as often happens) is a beautiful thing in general, it’s not so great when you want a rock-hard penis ready to go.
And as a Domme, nothing is more upsetting and insulting than a semi-erect or flaccid penis. It is almost a personal affront, even if you know it is a product of your own handiwork.
I don’t have any experience with drug regimens, Viagra and such, but I have always enjoyed the “penis mold” kits that allow you to make a dildo from a mold of someone’s penis. Even that can be less than ideal, especially when you want the ejaculation and the 100% real feeling. It is much less about size and shape at such times and much more about the overall experience of “normal” sex.I enjoy that kind of sex for the whole experience and nothing can really take its place.
So what works? A good cockring and/or a urethral plug can sometimes get the job done. Maybe even a bit of compromising and adding a little kink (or whatever sort the sub/slave finds appealing) can pay off. But these things are pretty iffy. The old, Pavlovian kind of conditioning will likely work, assuming there is nothing physically wrong with the sexual organs, but that takes time to instill.
It is a good idea, in my opinion, for potential slaves to start tying their erections to the idea of their owners in their own time and before being owned in order to better be able to serve once owned. It may never be useful and can certainly be un-learned in training, but it’s the sort of thing that can make a potential owner pleased and could go a long way to eventual ownership. I always tell new subs that their asses should remain virginal, if possible, so as to better please their eventual owner, as popping a cherry is always fun. But saying “tie your erections to your eventual – and probably unmet – owner,” can make you sound nutty.
It all starts, however, with knowing what gets you off, so that you can change it. A slave who knows exactly what he likes can look for an owner who shares the same kinks, as well. Knowing that one is turned on by giving to others, or being used, can mean that the particular slave needs no extra erection training, as getting the opportunity to serve in such a way should help a lot. Knowing that one never wants to use his sex organs can help finding a Domme easier.
This time give it real thought and try again. What do you like?
One of the great things about the “lifestyle” is seeing how people define sex and what turns them on. Some people get turned on by those very kinky “fringe” things that lead them to live in the closet, for fear their kinks will make people think less of them. Some people find the D/s lifestyle to be their kink, and that is enough for them. And others are probably something close to asexual.
I could go on and on, but hopefully the point was made that “sex” is relative. Personally, I think sex is whatever gets you off, for the most part. Like most Dommes, I have a host of sex toys and my strap-on is my favorite (outside of my strongest vibrator). But, I also like “plain” sex. Are you gasping yet? This has become almost taboo somehow, which I find hilarious. Somehow, it seems that a Domme who actually likes to use her vagina is becoming a rarity.
I thought the person was playing the first time I heard the gasp at that. But I’ve kind of gotten used to it. I might as well add to it that I only have sex with men who are submissive to me. I can’t imagine having sex with a dom man as there is no attraction. Now, this has gotten some outrage, especially among Dommes who believe all slaves should be sexless. I agree with the sentiment only if it is what a Domme wants from/for her slave.
I don’t allow for much sex from slaves either, and generally put a strap-on on a slave if I am to use them as sex toys, but there is something to be said – to me – for a real penis in my vagina (or ass, I suppose). I generally accomplish this by having a submissive man who is not my owned property act as my “live” dildo and it works just fine, but there are the times when I am worked up and the person closest is a slave and I want the “complete package.”
That can lead to trouble.
All of the hard work that goes into keeping a slave nicely chaste with large, swollen balls can come to bite you once you want them to gain an erection. A lot of anal use and/or prostate milking can also seem to hinder erections while helping ejaculations, also. And while a formerly over-sexed male slave turning into a chaste little tongue machine (as often happens) is a beautiful thing in general, it’s not so great when you want a rock-hard penis ready to go.
And as a Domme, nothing is more upsetting and insulting than a semi-erect or flaccid penis. It is almost a personal affront, even if you know it is a product of your own handiwork.
I don’t have any experience with drug regimens, Viagra and such, but I have always enjoyed the “penis mold” kits that allow you to make a dildo from a mold of someone’s penis. Even that can be less than ideal, especially when you want the ejaculation and the 100% real feeling. It is much less about size and shape at such times and much more about the overall experience of “normal” sex.I enjoy that kind of sex for the whole experience and nothing can really take its place.
So what works? A good cockring and/or a urethral plug can sometimes get the job done. Maybe even a bit of compromising and adding a little kink (or whatever sort the sub/slave finds appealing) can pay off. But these things are pretty iffy. The old, Pavlovian kind of conditioning will likely work, assuming there is nothing physically wrong with the sexual organs, but that takes time to instill.
It is a good idea, in my opinion, for potential slaves to start tying their erections to the idea of their owners in their own time and before being owned in order to better be able to serve once owned. It may never be useful and can certainly be un-learned in training, but it’s the sort of thing that can make a potential owner pleased and could go a long way to eventual ownership. I always tell new subs that their asses should remain virginal, if possible, so as to better please their eventual owner, as popping a cherry is always fun. But saying “tie your erections to your eventual – and probably unmet – owner,” can make you sound nutty.
It all starts, however, with knowing what gets you off, so that you can change it. A slave who knows exactly what he likes can look for an owner who shares the same kinks, as well. Knowing that one is turned on by giving to others, or being used, can mean that the particular slave needs no extra erection training, as getting the opportunity to serve in such a way should help a lot. Knowing that one never wants to use his sex organs can help finding a Domme easier.
This time give it real thought and try again. What do you like?
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